Generally speaking, men are interested in women for two types of potential relationships; sexual coupling, and life-partnership. Their standards for the former are quite low, and their standards for the latter are high.
More often than not, women are primarily interested in the latter, but have trouble identifying which type of relationship a man wants with her, and he will often try to obtain the former by implying he wants the latter. If she is fooled by this, particularly if she is fooled repeatedly, she will decrease her eligibility for the life-partnership scenario. It is what it is.
Before society “evolved” to the point where chastity and modesty were deemed antiquated, there was considerably less confusion about the intentions and nature of a relationship because sexual intimacy was obtainable strictly within the framework of a life-partnership; within marriage. The decline of the importance of marriage, and the dismissal of the value of chastity, has put women at a disadvantage vis-a-vis predatory men.
Traditional values were not developed over the course of millennia to oppress anyone, but to protect everyone from their own worst instincts and vulnerabilities. You can dismantle all of this if you like, but I doubt very much if you are equipped for the chaos that will ensue.